South Korea ferry disaster families still struggling to move on

Sinking of the Sewol ferry in 2014 claimed the lives of 250 Danwon High School students

Pictures of the Sewol ferry victims in an office where their families have periodic meetings in Ansan, South Korea, on May 26, 2022. Two hundred and fifty students and 11 teachers from the school died when the ferry sank off the southwestern coast of South Korea on April 16, 2014. (Woohae Cho/ The New York Times)
Pictures of the Sewol ferry victims in an office where their families have periodic meetings in Ansan, South Korea, on May 26, 2022. Two hundred and fifty students and 11 teachers from the school died when the ferry sank off the southwestern coast of South Korea on April 16, 2014. (Woohae Cho/ The New York Times)

His room remains as it was the day he left on a school trip in 2014, his bed still neatly arranged with the same pillow and blanket. The trophy he won in a piano competition stands proudly on a bookshelf. On his desk are his computer and cell phone, untouched next to some of his favourite snacks.

Lee Ho-jin died eight years ago at the age of 16, one of 250 sophomore students whose lives were lost when the Sewol ferry sank off the southwestern coast of South Korea on April 16th, 2014. More than 300 people died that day, with all the students coming from Danwon High School in Ansan, a city just south of Seoul.

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South Koreans quickly rallied around the victims’ families in the aftermath, united in their outrage. But South Korea’s most traumatic peacetime disaster soon divided the country as critics vilified the families’ quest for accountability and proper compensation as an anti-government campaign. Eight years later — pressured by time and daily life — much of the country has moved on while Ansan seems frozen in grief.

To outsiders, the city may appear like any other in South Korea, with its quiet neighbourhoods and tall apartment buildings. In cafes, young couples discuss housing prices and the cost of raising children. But a closer look reveals the ways in which Ansan is serving as a memorial to the victims and still struggling to come to terms with the lessons the disaster brought to bear on the entire nation.

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Families in Ansan say that at least three parents have killed themselves after losing their children in the disaster. Some families have disintegrated in divorce. Others have moved away to grieve alone. Still others have banded together to console each other, keep their children’s memories alive and help the nation understand the depths of their sacrifice.

A memorial in the shape of a yellow whale now overlooks the playground of Danwon High School. At the 4.16 Memorial Classroom, a museum dedicated to the students, the victims’ classrooms are recreated with desks, blackboards and other furniture from the school. Visitors realise the enormity of the loss when the names of all 250 students and 11 teachers who drowned are recited at the end of a video presentation.

A memorial in the shape of a yellow whale for the Sewol ferry victims at Danwon High School in Ansan, South Korea.
A memorial in the shape of a yellow whale for the Sewol ferry victims at Danwon High School in Ansan, South Korea.
Messages from friends of the victims on the 4.16 Memorial Classroom in Ansan, South Korea.
Messages from friends of the victims on the 4.16 Memorial Classroom in Ansan, South Korea.

“I go to my son’s classroom​ here​ to see his name, picture and desk and regain power​,” ​says Jeon In-suk (51) who lost her only son, Im Kyong-bin​, and began working as a ​volunteer ​guide at the museum ​last year. Before that, she had camped out in front of the presidential office in Seoul for three long winter months, demanding an answer to whether official negligence during the rescue operation contributed to the death of her son.

Families talk about the visceral pain that follows them and how cities that undergo tragedies — such as Uvalde, Texas — carry the weight of a loss that only victims and relatives can truly understand. But parents also say they have learned there is no way to deal with calamity other than to live through the grief.

“You just have to cry when it’s hard; there is no way around it,” says Kim Mi-ok, Ho-jin’s mother. “No one, nothing, can console you.” She has refused to report her son’s death to the government and continues to pay his monthly cell phone bill as if one day she might hear his voice on the other side.

“When I miss him, I lie on his bed, hug his pillow, smell his smell and cry,” says Kim (53).

The passenger ferry was carrying 477 people, of whom 164 were confirmed rescued, coast guard officials said. The ferry listed heavily onto its side and capsized in apparently calm conditions. Video: Reuters

On the day the Sewol ferry sank, live footage of the capsized boat slowly disappearing under the water was broadcast across South Korea. Fishermen and poorly equipped rescuers tried desperately to break windows and save passengers trapped inside. Cell phones salvaged from the wreckage showed videos of children frantically saying goodbye to their parents as the cold water filled their cabins.

The disaster had been born of greed and negligence. The owner of the Sewol had added extra berths, making the ferry top-heavy. On its final voyage, it was carrying twice the legal limit of cargo, having dumped most of the ballast that would have helped stabilise it. Regulators​ ruled the ship seaworthy. But when it made a sharp turn while fighting a strong current, it lost its balance.

As it keeled over, its crew kept urging the passengers through the intercom to wait in their cabins. The first coast guard boat that arrived at the scene did little more than pick up the fleeing crew members, including the captain​​, Lee Joon-seok, while passengers trapped inside banged on the windows and the ship slowly descended beneath the waves. The government initially told the nation that all the passengers had been rescued. Of the 476 people on board the Sewol, only 172 were rescued.

More than 150 regulators, crew members, ship inspectors and officials from ferry and loading companies have been indicted for their roles in the disaster. South Korea tightened safety rules and made laws to crack down on corruption and companies that put profit in advance of safety. ​

Families in Ansan called multiple rounds of government investigations a whitewash because they never properly investigated the role of official incompetence, and none of the top officials they held responsible have​ gone to prison. Angry parents camped out in central Seoul, some on weeks-long hunger strikes, demanding a more thorough investigation. A new investigative panel​ is set to wrap up its work this month. But as the ​mourning and ​investigations have carried on, helping to precipitate the ousting of then president Park Geun-hye in 2017, many South Koreans, especially conservatives, have said they have had enough, accusing victims’ families of holding the country hostage and angling for bigger compensation packages from the government.

“People think it’s over and they wonder why we continue to protest,” says Kim Byong-kwon (57) who left Ansan and moved to a new city and didn’t tell his new neighbours that he had lost his daughter, Kim Bitnara​, in the Sewol disaster. “But they don’t understand that our pain is not healed, and that nothing has changed.”

The 4.16 Memorial Classroom, a museum dedicated to the Sewol ferry victims in Ansan, South Korea.
The 4.16 Memorial Classroom, a museum dedicated to the Sewol ferry victims in Ansan, South Korea.
Kim Mi-ok, the mother of Lee Ho-jin, in his bedroom in Ansan, South Korea.
Kim Mi-ok, the mother of Lee Ho-jin, in his bedroom in Ansan, South Korea.

Kang Soon-joong, who also lost his daughter, joined an early morning soccer club to keep himself distracted from an onslaught of grief and anger. “Without soccer, I would be dead by now,” says Kang (63). He abandoned friends of 50 years after they called the victims’ families “dealers of corpses”.

The most crushing thing of all has been the sense of guilt among parents who feel they failed to protect their children and are haunted by the memories of how they died.

When she first heard the news of the Sewol, Kim, Ho-jin’s mother, immediately called her son on the ferry. “Mom, don’t worry. I see the coast guard out the window,” Kim remembered ​him saying. “I will see you when I get back home.”

When ​she called him again, he didn’t ​answer. ​ ​Ho-jin’s body was recovered 16 days later, and, according to Korean funeral custom, he was buried three days afterwards. It was May 5th, Children’s Day in South Korea.

His father, Lee Yong-ki, took to drinking​, weeping alone while driving and listening to music. “Walking on and on along a stream near my home like a woman who lost her mind was all I could do,” Kim says. “Ho-jin was the first person on earth to call me mom.”

Ho-jeong, one of Ho-jin’s two younger sisters, says she hated spring and the April blossoms because they offer painful reminders every year of her brother’s death. Ho-yoon, the youngest child in the family, began self-harming after her brother died.

But the family has also started to rebuild.

“My husband constantly had nightmares, kicking his legs and even grabbing me by the collar,” Kim says. “One night, when I hugged him after he let out a scream, he crouched like a baby. ​He looked so lonely when I looked at his back.”

This year, Lee agreed to take medication for anger management and panic disorder. Every Sunday, the family visits a memorial park where Ho-jin is buried. ​ ​This year, on her birthday on April 19th, Ho-jeong for the first time since the disaster asked her family to eat out together. ​

She sends ​Ho-jin a Facebook message at midnight every day​ for fear she might forget him, as much of South Korean society has. ​Lee says it is important to keep the memories of Sewol victims alive: “We want a safer world where children no longer have to die like ours.”

— This article originally appeared in the New York Times