‘I fell for a woman who’s now gone from my life. How can I stop imagining a future together?’Tell Me About It: I feel as if I’m back to square one and am scared that nobody I meet again will compareWed Dec 14 2022 - 06:01
‘My daughter emigrated to New Zealand 17 years ago. I’m still devastated’Tell Me About It: ‘I feel sick inside and miss her so very much. I just want to be with her. What can I do? She FaceTimes me every night’Wed Dec 07 2022 - 06:01
‘My boyfriend left his wife, and now his children will not talk to him’Tell Me About It: As his children do not speak to him, can it be assumed that your relationship began before his marriage ended?Wed Nov 30 2022 - 06:01
‘I’m in a relationship with a woman who is 20 years older. That she will continue to age scares me’Tell Me About It: If she turns 60/65 or even 70, I have big doubts I would still be physically attracted to herWed Nov 23 2022 - 06:01
‘I’m dreading Christmas – it will be my first without alcohol since my teens’Tell Me About It: Possible shame over past drinking may cause you to shrink away from engagement with othersWed Nov 16 2022 - 06:01
‘All the caring I put into my parents – the time, effort and money – is gone, wasted’Tell Me About It: I feel I am just dragging my way through each day until I too become elderly like my late parentsWed Nov 09 2022 - 06:01
‘I still love her more than any other girl, including my girlfriend’Tell Me About It: Who to date? The one I love the most but who is less intentional about her life or the one I love less but who is very intentional about her life?Wed Nov 02 2022 - 06:01
‘My husband wants to expand our business, but at what cost to our family’s quality of life?’ Tell Me About It: ‘We have built such a good life. But my husband is about to risk what we’ve achieved’Tue Oct 25 2022 - 05:59
‘I am in my 70s and in a relationship with a man 10 years my senior. I am worried I will end up caring for him’Tell Me About It: ‘He has asked me to marry him and I find that I am upset by this as I feel I am being unkind in my thoughts’Wed Oct 19 2022 - 06:01
‘My partner hasn’t told his girlfriend about me. I feel like I’m the one he’s having the affair with’Tell Me About It: ‘He was in an open marriage when we met, and was forthright with me from the outset. I had long hoped he would be happy with just me’Wed Oct 12 2022 - 06:01
‘I am a frontline civil servant at a dead end in my present role. I would like a change’Tell Me About It: ‘I have become frustrated and disheartened with a job I have loved’Tue Oct 04 2022 - 05:31
Twenty ways to make your relationship more lasting, loving and lustfulDon’t lose hope when things get difficult. There is a lot we can do to keep love aliveSat Oct 01 2022 - 05:30
‘My obese husband drinks, smokes and has had a heart attack, but will not change his lifestyle’How can I get my obese husband who has had a heart attack to change his unhealthy ways?Wed Sept 28 2022 - 06:01
‘I am a gay man in a straight woman’s body. If I were to speak to my husband about this, it could end our marriage’Tell Me About It: I love my family, and I would not want to lose them for anything. Should I start the transition process? I really don’t know what to doWed Sept 21 2022 - 06:00
‘I’ve been struggling my entire life, mostly socially and with being a functioning adult’Tell Me About It: Social anxiety affects large numbers of the population so there is knowledge and help availableWed Sept 14 2022 - 06:01
‘My friend of 25 years appears distant, unhinged and enraged. What can I do?’Tell Me About It: He was always easy-going and incredibly outgoing, but as he nears his 50th birthday he is nothing like the person I used to knowTue Sept 06 2022 - 06:01
‘I am finding IVF very stressful, but I don’t think my husband cares too much about it’Tell Me About It: ‘I don’t think he understands how important this is for me and how much his comments and inaction makes me feel like I’m flying solo’Tue Aug 30 2022 - 06:01
‘I’ve been with my partner five years and have no idea what he likes about me’Tell Me About It: Perhaps the real question is not that he is not excited enough by you but whether you are fulfilled enough by this relationshipTue Aug 23 2022 - 05:35
‘I feel upset and rejected by the coldness of my partner’s father towards me’Tell Me About It: ‘I’ve worked hard to build the relationship but am met with coldness and distance’Tue Aug 16 2022 - 06:01
‘I’m a civil servant working in a job where I’m underpaid and underappreciated’Effects of spending your life in job that makes you feel consistently unappreciated can be detrimental so it is worth looking at whole situationWed Aug 10 2022 - 05:01
‘I am devastated for my daughter after her break-up but don’t know what else I can do to help her’Tell Me About It: ‘Her boyfriend has ended their five-year relationship, but she doesn’t accept that it could be over for good’Tue Aug 02 2022 - 06:01
‘My wife wants to separate. The only explanation is my fertility issues’Tell Me About It: She refuses to seek counselling and is adamant that our marriage is overTue Jul 26 2022 - 06:01
‘I am entering my 60s and I just wish I did not feel so alone’Tell Me About It: Sixty is no longer seen as old — you need more engagement and social connectionTue Jul 19 2022 - 06:31
‘My 17-year-old son has become obsessed by war’Tell Me About It: Encourage him to look at the constraints a preoccupation with something can have on his lifeWed Jul 13 2022 - 06:01
‘I want to pursue a long-term relationship with my friend’s father’ Tell Me About It: ‘He wants to keep our relationship a secret as he fears his daughter won’t understand’Tue Jul 05 2022 - 07:45
‘I didn’t realise that my wife spent more than €20,000 on cosmetic work’Tell Me About It: ‘I’m not annoyed about the procedures, I’m just sad she did not discuss them with me’Wed Jun 29 2022 - 06:00
‘I feel under huge pressure to be social and my excuses not to meet friends are wearing thin’Tell Me About It: ‘When Covid came and we couldn’t socialise, I found that I was very relieved’Wed Jun 22 2022 - 06:00
‘My grandson put his hand in a peanut butter jar and it’s caused a family feud. What do I do?’ Tell Me About It: ‘My grandson, who is mildly autistic and has ADHD, was called disgusting’Wed Jun 15 2022 - 06:00
‘I’ve always been a good mom—but I don’t have a relationship with my children’Tell Me About It: What can I do to help my children become a family?Wed Jun 08 2022 - 06:01
‘I’m 39 and single . . . how do I stop yearning for a loving relationship and be content with a pretty great life?’Tell Me About It: I feel I can’t force it or by sheer determination manifest it into existenceWed Jun 01 2022 - 06:01
‘At 28 my life appears perfect but inside anxiety is taking over’Social isolation over the course of the pandemic is a key factorWed May 25 2022 - 06:01
‘My roommate jokes about suicide since being rejected by the woman he fancies’Tell Me About It: I’m now the only person he speaks to. How can I step back safely?Wed May 18 2022 - 06:01
‘I’m a middle-aged woman living alone. Sometimes I think: is this it?’Tell Me About It: You are midway through life but there is a lot of living yet to be doneWed May 11 2022 - 06:01
‘I feel self-conscious, nervous and more awkward than I used to around women’Tell Me About It: That you are lonely is a strong signal that you are ready for connectionTue May 03 2022 - 06:01
‘My girlfriend shows her kids more love and attention than I think I will ever get’Tell Me About It: ‘Sometimes I want to leave to let her finish raising her grown kids’Wed Apr 27 2022 - 06:01
‘I’m worried my in-laws in the Middle East will reject my daughter and her girlfriend’Tell Me About It: Offer support and try to trust that your child will manage whatever faces herWed Apr 20 2022 - 06:01
‘People are saying my boyfriend is really obnoxious’Tell Me About It: We’ve been together a long time, and no one has said this to me beforeWed Apr 13 2022 - 06:01
‘I’ve lost the person I was in March 2020. I don’t feel like I’m me any more’Tell Me About It: How do I go back to being the person I was before Covid?Wed Apr 06 2022 - 06:01
Yes, the questions are real! How our advice columnists answer your queriesRoe McDermott, John Sharry and Trish Murphy explain how they respond to your sex, relationship and parenting problemsSat Apr 02 2022 - 01:56
‘I feel disrespected a lot by people in my life. Am I expecting too much from them?’Tell Me About It: Starting with intention of offering respect to others can lead to friendshipMon Mar 28 2022 - 08:25
‘No one ever rings me, and it really hurts... I feel sick with loneliness’Tell Me About It: ‘My therapist thinks I could be neurodiverse’Wed Mar 23 2022 - 06:01
‘I lost my wife years ago. My new partner has become distant during pregnancy’Tell Me About It: 'I'm terrified I will not play a part in my child's life'Wed Mar 16 2022 - 06:01
‘My husband has taken over the family business and it’s affected our marriage’Tell Me About It: He works almost 14 hours per day and rarely sees me or the childrenWed Mar 09 2022 - 06:01
‘My partner does not like our oldest child. I worry how this will affect him’Tell Me About It: ‘There is no doubt he is the father but I wonder if he questions that’Mon Feb 28 2022 - 08:20
‘I’ve discovered through DNA testing my father isn’t my biological dad’Tell Me About It: ‘I don’t want to rip my family apart to get answers that won’t be enough’Tue Feb 22 2022 - 06:01
‘I’m embarrassed to be seen with my obese boyfriend’‘I love the person he can be sometimes, but the weight issue is getting in the way’Tue Feb 15 2022 - 06:01
‘I’m worried my friends think I’m a drama queen because of my Covid anxiety’Tell Me About It: ‘I’m aware I can overreact but I’m scared of bringing it home’Wed Feb 09 2022 - 06:01
‘While working from home, I can’t stop questioning my purpose in life’Time off the treadmill of life made reader think about the big pictureWed Feb 02 2022 - 06:01
‘I was deeply in love with my non-lesbian best friend for years’Dear Trish: How do I know I’ll love my new girlfriend as much as I loved that friend?Wed Jan 26 2022 - 06:00
‘I’m struggling to connect with someone else after my girlfriend left me’Tell Me About It: ‘I have spoken to a therapist, but I don’t seem to be able to move on’Tue Jan 18 2022 - 06:01
