Yes, the questions are real! How our advice columnists answer your queriesRoe McDermott, John Sharry and Trish Murphy explain how they respond to your sex, relationship and parenting problemsSat Apr 02 2022 - 01:56
‘I feel disrespected a lot by people in my life. Am I expecting too much from them?’Tell Me About It: Starting with intention of offering respect to others can lead to friendshipMon Mar 28 2022 - 08:25
‘No one ever rings me, and it really hurts... I feel sick with loneliness’Tell Me About It: ‘My therapist thinks I could be neurodiverse’Wed Mar 23 2022 - 06:01
‘I lost my wife years ago. My new partner has become distant during pregnancy’Tell Me About It: 'I'm terrified I will not play a part in my child's life'Wed Mar 16 2022 - 06:01
‘My husband has taken over the family business and it’s affected our marriage’Tell Me About It: He works almost 14 hours per day and rarely sees me or the childrenWed Mar 09 2022 - 06:01
‘My partner does not like our oldest child. I worry how this will affect him’Tell Me About It: ‘There is no doubt he is the father but I wonder if he questions that’Mon Feb 28 2022 - 08:20
‘I’ve discovered through DNA testing my father isn’t my biological dad’Tell Me About It: ‘I don’t want to rip my family apart to get answers that won’t be enough’Tue Feb 22 2022 - 06:01
‘I’m embarrassed to be seen with my obese boyfriend’‘I love the person he can be sometimes, but the weight issue is getting in the way’Tue Feb 15 2022 - 06:01
‘I’m worried my friends think I’m a drama queen because of my Covid anxiety’Tell Me About It: ‘I’m aware I can overreact but I’m scared of bringing it home’Wed Feb 09 2022 - 06:01
‘While working from home, I can’t stop questioning my purpose in life’Time off the treadmill of life made reader think about the big pictureWed Feb 02 2022 - 06:01
‘I was deeply in love with my non-lesbian best friend for years’Dear Trish: How do I know I’ll love my new girlfriend as much as I loved that friend?Wed Jan 26 2022 - 06:00
‘I’m struggling to connect with someone else after my girlfriend left me’Tell Me About It: ‘I have spoken to a therapist, but I don’t seem to be able to move on’Tue Jan 18 2022 - 06:01
‘After my husband died suddenly, I met a man at a bereavement group’Tell Me About It: Your job is to show you are fully aware of the choices you are makingTue Jan 11 2022 - 06:01
‘My mother was abusive at home but a local hero in the community’Tell me about it: Moving home to care for a father with dementia has resurfaced traumaWed Jan 05 2022 - 06:01
‘I suggested an open relationship. Now I fear my husband has fallen in love’After a car crash left her struggling with sex she suggested her husband sleep with othersWed Dec 29 2021 - 06:01
‘Our daughter is living with a man with addiction issues. We are really worried’Tell Me About It: ‘She has a really good job and has taken out loans to pay off his debts’Wed Dec 22 2021 - 06:01
‘After 45 years I have realised that my husband is a terrible bore’Tell Me About It: There is no age we get to that is too old for development or changeWed Dec 15 2021 - 06:00
‘After divorce, I’ve fallen in love. But something is holding me back’‘Life would change if things progressed, yet I feel the need to hit the brakes’Wed Dec 08 2021 - 06:01
‘My family treated me like a liar when I told them I was sexually abused’Tell Me About It: The 12-year-old you needs to be believed so that healing can beginWed Dec 01 2021 - 06:01
‘I’ve met a man who lost his wife 10 months ago. He feels he is doing wrong’Tell Me About It: ‘I lost my first love years 27 years ago, so I feel for him’Wed Nov 24 2021 - 06:01
‘My husband and I are both in our 60s. Are we too old to separate?’We have nothing in common but the financial situation is holding us backWed Nov 17 2021 - 06:01
‘He will never, ever say he loves me’Tell Me About It: ‘He says it is not in his vocabulary. But I have heard him tell his kids he loves them’Wed Nov 10 2021 - 06:01
‘I suspect my husband, and father of our new baby, is using drugs’He gets easily agitated over small things and finds excuses to leave the houseWed Nov 03 2021 - 06:01
‘I am beginning to feel trapped and controlled by my partner’She orders my food, tells me what to wear and constantly checks my phoneThu Oct 28 2021 - 06:01
‘I’ve started to remember things that happened with a boyfriend when I was 14’Dear Trish: ‘I’ve just started college but I worry about death and I can’t be intimate’Mon Oct 18 2021 - 06:01
‘Am I making a mistake planning a future with someone who wants children?’Tell Me About It: ‘I always said I didn’t want a baby and that remains true now’Tue Oct 12 2021 - 06:01
‘I’m a gay man in my 40s who is not single by choice’Tell me about it: His relationship ended and he wants marriage and a familyWed Oct 06 2021 - 06:00
‘A man assaulted me last year and is still making life difficult for me in college’Tell Me About It: He is involved in club affairs, and it is making me not want to participateWed Sept 29 2021 - 06:01
‘My partner wants to manage the building of our new home, but he is dreadful at DIY’Tell Me About It: ‘I am terrified we will waste money on what could be a vanity project’Wed Sept 22 2021 - 06:01
‘My ex-husband and I rekindled our relationship, but is it just another honeymoon?’Tell Me About It: ‘Things are different. We love each other and want to start a family’Wed Sept 15 2021 - 06:01
‘I was cruelly rejected romantically two years ago, and I still cry about it every day’Tell Me About It: The heartache that comes with romantic rejection can last a whileTue Sept 07 2021 - 06:01
‘I am not getting the vaccine and everyone is giving me a hard time’Family and friends don’t understand and rules around vaccination lead to feelings of alienationTue Aug 31 2021 - 06:01
‘I quit finance for a simpler life in the sun. But with no friends, should I go home?’Tell Me About It: ‘My Mediterranean life sounds idyllic, but I have seen no family’Tue Aug 24 2021 - 06:01
‘Should I call Tusla about our new neighbour? She seems to be verbally abusing her son’Tell Me About It: Look out for the child doing normal things but report if you’re worriedWed Aug 18 2021 - 06:01
‘My husband will not live with my ageing, homophobic father’Dear Trish: My parents are almost literally funding our quite ostentatious lifestyleWed Aug 11 2021 - 06:01
‘My divorced brother is ‘living his best life’, and there are now local rumours about his behaviour’Tell Me About It: ‘I’m worried my brother’s behaviour will impact his health and his life’Wed Aug 04 2021 - 06:01
‘Was breaking up with my long-term boyfriend a mistake?’Tell Me About It: My decision to break up our relationship has caused me and him immeasurable lossesWed Jul 28 2021 - 06:01
‘My husband’s family excludes us from events because we don’t have kids’Tell me about it: He hates confrontation and doesn’t want me to say anythingWed Jul 21 2021 - 06:01
‘My brother hurt me with his shocking views. How can I continue our relationship?’Tell me about it: We all experience shame and know its damaging effects on usWed Jul 14 2021 - 06:01
‘My husband and I haven’t had sex in 30 years and he resents me for this’Tell me about it: He won’t come out and talk about it but I know he is bitter towards meTue Jul 06 2021 - 06:01
‘My son won’t come on holiday with us unless his girlfriend can join us’Tell me about it: I’m worried that our much-needed family holiday is about to be ruinedSun Jun 27 2021 - 06:01
‘My mother is toxic and tries to control all aspects of my life’Tell Me About It: ‘She’s aggressive, abusive and can fly into rages that last hours’Wed Jun 23 2021 - 06:01
‘I have a glass of wine at lunch and my Mam doesn’t approve’Tell Me About It: ‘I moved back in with my folks who think I have dependency issues’Wed Jun 16 2021 - 06:01
‘My elderly, diabetic, sexually lacking fiance wants a quick wedding. What should I do?’Tell Me About It: ‘I wonder why he wants to meet my mother before marriage’Thu Jun 10 2021 - 06:01
‘I have lost all my friends because of my mental illness’Should I try to reconnect with old friends, or just try and find new people?Wed Jun 02 2021 - 06:01
‘I am getting an insight into toxic laddish behaviour – and it’s making me sick’Tell Me About It: ‘My ex is dating a friend of a friend who openly talks about their sex life’Wed May 26 2021 - 06:01
‘After 35 years in an unhappy marriage, debt is all that’s keeping us together’‘I don’t ever remember a time when we were truly happy. It’s the hostility I find difficult’Wed May 19 2021 - 06:01
‘I’ve turned into a violent person since my man cheated on me’Tell Me About It: ‘I feel he is planning to cheat on me again and my feelings are very hurt’Wed May 12 2021 - 06:01
‘I’m a health worker who has switched to a junior office post to avoid exposure to diseases’Tell Me About It: ‘My husband is angry with me, as he believes I have not thought this through’Wed May 05 2021 - 06:01
‘My brother has moved into the family home and won’t buy out my share’Tell Me About It: He has a free house when I have to struggle to keep a roof over my headWed Apr 28 2021 - 06:01
